The Journey into Tantric Dearmouring

Concretely, here is how a session unfolds:

I come to my clients’ homes or you come to me. If i come to your home, I come with everything needed for the massage (futon, oil, sheets, towels…).

After setting up the space, we take the time to talk, can be 15 minutes to 30 minutes depending what is needed, so I can set the frame of the experience and you can express anything you need in order to fully relax. During this time, we discuss your needs, your wants, your boundaries, the areas of touch, the level of nudity, and the process, and any other question you may have regarding the session.

Then, we take our place on the futon, where I invite you into an olfactory journey with some smudging, and a blend of a unique set of essential oils.

This first moment is an invitation to enter into intimacy with yourself.

From there, the massage begins, guided by what is present.

We decide together which position to start in.

During our initial exchange, I explain that you are the one creating the experience, in the way you wish to live it (within the frame I hold — this is not a sexually oriented massage).

This is a massage where I adapt to what feels right for you.

I offer three different starting positions, each with a different level of physical proximity:

The first option is that you are alone on the futon, lying on your stomach, as in a more classical massage.

I begin outside of the futon.
This gives you time to feel my presence through the contact of my hands. Then, when the moment feels right for you, you can allow space for me on the futon and invite me to come closer, if your body calls for more proximity.

There is no obligation. You can absolutely choose to live the experience without bodies coming closer. In that case, only my hands and forearms will be in contact with your body. The massage can then be experienced as a well-being massage.

A second possibility is to begin lying on your side.

I am with you on the futon, seated behind you.
This position gives me access to both the upper and lower parts of your body from the beginning. It is close to a Kashmiri-style massage.

The third option is the one that gives me the most freedom in my movement.

We are seated facing each other, legs crossed.
I guide you into a short meditation, then you come to sit on me, in a lotus or yab-yum position.

The invitation here is to fully let yourself rest into my arms, releasing all tension in the body.

From there, I will move your body into different positions.
You have nothing to do, except feel what each movement brings up within you.

In this experience, I engage my whole body. I may use my chest, my belly, my legs, my breath…

Each session is unique. It is possible that another way of beginning emerges during our exchange, depending on your needs and what I feel.

This is your ritual — something we co-create together.

Clothing during the session

As mentioned earlier, you shape the experience according to what feels right for you in the moment.

Nudity is possible, but never required.

You can choose to keep your underwear on for the entire session. In that case, I fully respect the areas you choose to cover, and my hands will not pass through fabric.

You can also begin the session wearing underwear and remove it later if and when your body feels ready.

Or you can choose to be fully naked from the start and put something back on at any point if that feels necessary.

You stay connected to your own rhythm throughout. You remain responsible for your experience.

The depth of the work is not defined by nudity. Sometimes, keeping underwear on actually allows the body to relax more deeply.

On my side, I keep underwear during the entire session in my professional practice, in order to maintain clarity and avoid any confusion. I can also wear a t-shirt if that helps you feel more at ease.

Work on the genital area

Again, you define the experience.

The intention of my massage is to work with the body as a whole.

The genital area is part of the body and, in a traditional approach, it can be included in the same way as any other area.

This inclusion is always done in a non-sexual context, with the same quality of presence and touch.

However, if this does not feel right for you, it is simply not included.

When it is included, there is no specific focus or stimulation of this area, unlike what you may find in “neo-tantric” practices.

My hands may pass over it in the same way they move across the rest of the body — without separation, without emphasis.

This allows the body to gradually dissolve the idea that this area is “different” from the rest.

We have been culturally conditioned — especially in Judeo-Christian frameworks — to separate the intimate parts of the body from everything else.

Here, the invitation is to bring everything back into wholeness, without hierarchy, without judgment.

For me personally, this has been a way to move beyond the belief that “genitals = sexuality only”, and to reconnect this area with its deeper nature as a source of life energy.

There are no “intimate parts” anymore. The entire body becomes intimate.

During dearmouring, a specific work can be held in the pelvic floor area, the yoni, the lingam, the anal zone, and this is specific to some sessions, and always discussed beforehand or coming from a personal request on your side.

And still, nothing is lost if you choose not to include this part in the session.

My posture as a practitioner

My massage and touch is done without intention.

I am not here to heal you, awaken you, fix you, or activate anything in you.

I am not even here to give you love or tenderness.

It is precisely this absence of intention that allows your body to receive what is already true for it, without interference, without direction.

And paradoxically, as some clients have shared, when nothing is “given”, love naturally appears.

Not as something I project onto you — but as something that arises when the body is touched without expectation.

I experience this work as a practice of presence.

A moving meditation.

I accompany the body in a continuous flow, connected to my own internal movement and to what is alive in the moment.

It can feel like a dance.

Or like being immersed in water — sometimes still, sometimes moving, carried by different currents.

A note on the word tantric

I use the term tantric dearmouring to describe my work.

Not in the way it is often presented today, reduced to stimulation, performance, or energetic “activation”.

For me, tantra is not a technique and not a goal.

It is a way of meeting life through the body, in presence, without separation.

A return to sensation as it is.
A return to what is alive, before interpretation, before story.

In this sense, the tantric dimension of my work is not something I “add” to the massage.
It is the quality of attention through which the whole session takes place.

The dearmouring aspect is simply what happens when the body is met in this way — tensions, protections, and layers of holding are allowed to soften, not through force, but through presence.

So when I speak of tantric dearmouring, I am referring to a lived experience of the body where nothing is split apart — where touch, breath, sensation, and awareness are allowed to exist in the same space.

Rates for the “Ignite” session

The Ignite session is a complete experience that includes my travel to your location, a preliminary exchange, and the bodywork session itself.

The initial conversation usually lasts between 30 minutes and 1h30, creating the space for trust, clarity, and mutual agreement before the session begins.

The bodywork then unfolds according to the chosen format.

🌿 Essence
Approximately 1h30 of bodywork, with enough time for the exchange beforehand to allow the experience to fully settle and deepen.
350 CHF

🌌 Ignite
Between 2h30 and 3 hours, sometimes more, without a strict time frame. I let myself be fully guided by what is present, and the session naturally comes to a close when it feels complete.
450 CHF

In these spaces of presence, time becomes secondary. The body does not measure depth in minutes.

Whether the session is shorter or longer, what matters is the quality of presence and the openness of the system. The work invites a full letting go, beyond mental structure and time perception.

This approach is aligned with my practice of embodied spirituality: touch without intention, held space without agenda, supporting the body in its own natural intelligence and process.

If you have any questions, feel free to contact me. I always respond with care.

And if you feel called to experience this work, you can send me your contact details (location and phone number) so I can add you to my client list. I will reach out when I am traveling to your area.